Confidence or Assertiveness

Action is a high road to self-confidence and self-esteem ~ Bruce Lee

Do you struggle with confidence? Do you have difficulty in getting your voice heard? Being assertive means to voice your opinions, feelings, wants and needs in a respectful manner to you and the individual(s) receiving the communication.

This may occur in environments with a partner in your home, where you feel that you are unable to assert your views or opinions for fear of conflict or confrontation. It can also occur at work where you feel you are unable to speak up. It could be as simple as not being able to complain about inadequate service in a restaurant. These scenarios can leave an individual with feelings of frustration, inadequacy, low morale. The important thing is that with the appropriate training, you can become more assertive and confident to express yourself.

Why am I not assertive or confident?

There are many reasons, one of these being stress. When an individual is experiencing heightened levels of stress, the fight or flight response is triggered. This can lead to agitation and the inability to respond in a confident or assertive manner.

At times, you may feel that being assertive will offend someone and this may be a learned behaviour from childhood; either from a parent or sibling.

Lack of confidence can also result in the inability to express your opinions, especially when others have alternative views on things. There can be a sense of fear and questioning as to whether expressing your opinion could lead to conflict.

Lack of assertiveness can also stem from the culture we grew up around. For example, in some cultures, it is considered impolite and disrespectful to question elders. This can leave the individual feeling helpless as a result of being unable to express themselves. Gender can also play a role, even in western societies where a female may be raised to not speak up in situations that could cause conflict. Consequently, she carries this forward into her adult life.

How can Shaanti Wellness help me?

The good news is that we all have the ability to become confident and assertive – these are skills we can develop at any age in life. Shaanti Wellness can teach you a variety of techniques to get you to the place you want to be. Starting with stress reduction techniques, including skilled relaxation and mindfulness to practice being assertive in the privacy of the therapy room. It is like training a muscle – it may not be prudent to opt for the heaviest weights first so we take small steps to begin. This will build your self confidence gradually. We may use Hypnosis to reinforce these ideas and CBT to help you understand your thoughts and feelings so that you can be that confident and assertive person you have always wanted to be.

How long can I expect it to take?

We usually suggest 3 to 5 sessions depending upon your current ability to be assertive and/or your current levels of confidence. After each session we will assess your progress and decide on the appropriate course of action. With our combined approach we see huge improvements usually within 3 sessions but each of us are different and some may need more practice.

shaanti.wellness Yoga can help remarkably well, with long-lasting results, that with practice leave you with a greater sense of wellbeing. Irrespective of your experience, our qualified KRI Yoga teacher will be on hand to ensure you are taken care of. One-to-one sessions or group sessions are available. Find out more

At shaanti.wellness our ethos is to you bring you into a better place from where we found you, a calmer you, a more vibrant you.

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