For every minute you are angry, you lost sixty seconds of happiness ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Did you know that it is okay to feel angry? Anger is an emotion that is necessary – it helps set boundaries when you feel that you may have been deceived, insulted or when someone oversteps your boundaries. Anger becomes problematic however, when we are unable to control it and consequently it becomes a habitual way of living. This can be a major problem, which if not resolved can lead to physical, mental and emotional health problems.
Am I angry?
- Do you show inward aggression, which may include thinking you are a bad person, cutting yourself off from the world, causing yourself harm?
- Do you show outward aggression in the form of violence toward others, shouting at others, exhibiting threatening behaviour towards others?
- Do you show passive or non-violent aggression to include sarcasm, avoiding conversations with people?
This list is not exhaustive and there are other ways in which your anger maybe manifesting itself, which affects you and people around you adversely. The key is to find out what the trigger is and then to deal with it in a calm manner which is all possible with Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy. When you are calm there is no space for anger.
Why am I angry?
It could also be a learned behaviour from what you may have seen as a child growing up or it could be a traumatic event, which has conditioned your response in situations. At times, feeling like you have not been listened to or understood can also be a trigger for anger.
Similarly, when one is already under stress, it can induce the flight or flight response, leading to over-heightened responses in the form of anger.